Friday, May 15, 2009

One year ago today....

....I received a frantic phone call from my husband that our nephew, Jason, was in a horrible accident and that I needed to get to the hospital right away because he needed family there. Since my husband and his brother and sister were out in New Mexico visiting their mom because their stepdad was near the end of his battle with cancer I was the closest one who could get there quickly and I rushed over there to find Jason in a trauma room. I can't believe that a year has passed since that horrible day and there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about everything that was going on in my life at the time with my mom battling cancer and to have this happen to my nephew was horrific for our family.

If nothing else...the past year has shown me how important it is to live each day like it is your last because you simply do not know what will happen to you around the corner. You have to cherish the people that you love because you do not know if they will be taken away from you at a moment's notice or if you will have to sit and watch them waste away from a horrible disease. I am grateful that Jim and I have raised our children to value family and that each of my sons make time for their grandmother right now when we don't know how much longer she will be with us (as I type this my son, Robert, is on his way to visit with grandma so I can go home because I have been here for 4 hours sitting by her bedside). Jesse came to spend time with grandma last night and I love how her eyes light up when she sees him...he spent countless hours sitting with her over the past few months and they have grown closer...all of my boys have bonded with their grandmother so much since she has been living with us and I know each of them will have very fond memories of their time with her.

Sitting here and walking around and seeing all of the other family members visiting a loved one in the hospice house makes you think about so much...everyone here is dying and it makes you realize that we are all going to be at that stage someday and you hope and pray that it will be in a peaceful setting where people are trained to take care of your needs. The social worker here and all of the staff are really helpful so I'm happy about that.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

yeasterday make me feel has I was near by
I am greatfull for that love Madeleinexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
it was very emotionnel merci

ScrapnKel said...

Yep, I sooooo understand what you are thinking and feeling right now and it doesn't go away. I am here if you need me. I continue to pray for you and your family. I have seen so much loss in such a short time too and am so thankful for what I have everyday. Love you girl!!!

Nancy n Paul said...

So true. I am so grateful to have been able to have spent so much time with Mom last year. No one can ever take that away from me.

West Melbourne JoJo said...

For those of you who don't know me I'm Jo Ann, a dear friend of Denise's. I also had the wonderful opportunity to work in her yard tending to landscaping. She has always been a very special person to me and in a way felt like my guardian angel. She always seemed to be above all the petty things in life and knew what it is truly about - the love of family and friends. There are many of us in her old neighborhood who treasure her for the friendship that can be so rare these days. We all miss her terribly! I have found that Linda possesses so many of the wonderful qualities that Denise has - I guess the nut doesn't fall far from the tree. You're one of the strongest ladies I've ever met! Balancing everything under normal circumstances is a hard chore, but under circumstances like this takes a very special person. Your family has sure won a place in my heart. I know you must have had all sorts of thoughts going through your head with needing to bring your mom to hospice, but you know it's the right thing that will keep your mom as comfortable as she possibly can be. Remember to take care of yourself, Linda. You give so much and I worry it will make you susceptible to getting sick. I pray for all of you!